Wednesday, March 24, 2010


If this is your first time here, I hope you'll scroll down to the first post which explains a bit more about what this book is all about.

I made the decision to do a kind of running journal on this first exploration of what it takes to write a book. I decided that I wanted to write based in part on what I was hearing back from my college students as I taught and interacted in discussion with them about marriage, affairs, hooking up, friends with benefits, the many cases encountered in counseling and coaching individuals and of course the volumes of exposure that well known, married individuals are tagged with once it becomes known that they have been sexually involved with someone else.

I started exploring couples throughout history known for their dalliances, and the biological and psychological make-up of human beings. The more we undertand about how we are wired, and then how culture, religion, values, the media, especially the Internet, physical beauty (or not) and belief systems play into our decisions to act or not to act on our desires, the more we can begin to be prepared for potential possibilities.

I know some of you reading this might be thinking, I would never stray, or my husband/boyfriend better not ever if he wants to keep his parts, or we are above that, etc., etc., but still you might enjoy what this book will entail.

I am using fictionalized versions of actual affairs, told from the point of view of either gender. The affairs vary regarding ages of individuals, occupations, locations, attitudes, emotions (or lack of) sedate relationships, romantic ones, novel flings, quickies, love involved, kinky stuff, dangerous liasons, online and off, people of notoriety and not.

The non-fiction sections take into account not just the history or the controversy involved, but the outcome for marriage itself.

I plan to include same sex partners, emotional intimacy, threesomes, communication about sex, marriage, affairs, counseling or coaching, D/s and/or S&M, spiritual advice, statistics, variations of attitudes in countries other than in the US, where we are headed and possible tools/ideas and information to help your marriage be what you want it to be.

Next I will get into what I'm learning about writing...Oy vey.

Some of The 10 Top Craziest Sex Laws in America
(I have not checked these out yet- way strange)

In Bakersfield , CA., if you're going to have sex with Satan, you've got to use a condom.

In Dryersburg, TN., it is illegal for a lady to call a gentleman for a date.

In Merryvile, MO., wearing a corset is illegal because "the priviledge of admiring the curvaceoous , unencumbered body of a young woman should not be denied to the normal, red-blooded American male", (what if a man wears the corset)?

It is illegal to purchase sex toys in Alabama.

In Washington, D.C. engaging in any sexual position other than missionary is illegal.

In Massachusetts, you cannot consummate your love with a rodeo clown while the horses are still around.

1 comment:

  1. I would love to read more of these freaky strange laws! LOL
    Congrats on your new blog Freddi and I can't wait to read the book... but don't tell anyone! LOL (kidding)
    Love Darstar!